Saving Your Marriage…

Over and over this truth keeps recurring – that marriage and a happy home are essential for a safe and stable society and for a full and happy life. But one of the disillusionments of life is that something once so precious, so promising, could turn, at times, to such incompatibility – and even enmity. “For a couple who have basked in the sunshine of each other’s love, to stand by and see the clouds of misunderstanding and discord obscure the love light of their lives, is tragedy indeed.”

Part of the answer is suggested in some lines from Dr. Hubert Howe: “Why don’t people know how to stay happily married?” he asked. “…What changes so sharply?…Men and women, anguished, broken, beseech for some way to rescue the hopes with which they set out…hopes so vivid, so sacred,…somebody to tell it to, somebody to do it for, somebody that needs you, somebody that shares…What led up to these alleged grounds? Countless petty clashes,…failures to understand…selfishness…the habit of secrecy…[failure to be definite and responsible in matters of money]…lack of common interests [and activities]…Let this drifting apart keep on, and you’ll be divorced in spirit if not in court… [Avoid] the growth of drabness…Don’t let your conversation sink to the dreary level of complaint, anger, self-pity,…Don’t neglect the tact, politeness…compliments…with which you started out. Don’t let down… And if you catch yourself brooding on the fact that you’ve failed to find a perfect mate, just walk up to the mirror and demand, ‘Am I the perfect mate?’ Ask yourself over and over, insistently: ‘Am I contributing my share, as a partner, to home and happiness?'”

Whatever the cause, whatever it requires, when two people of honor and honesty, of character and common sense, have committed themselves to marriage, saving a home, saving a family, is worth all the effort.

“Winning love once is not enough. Keep rewinning it…In the last analysis, it’s up to you to save your marriage.”