Prescriptions… for Our Friends
January 1, 1970
There are many standards of conduct on which most of us would probably agree in principle,
but the point where we often part company is in deciding when and to whom these principles should
apply. Of course there are some wholly unprincipled people who don’t even give lip service to a high
code of conduct. But most of those whom most of us are likely to meet at least pay lip service to high
principles—people who agree, for example, that the Golden Rule is a desirable code of conduct, that the
Commandments are not purely of the past but still apply in the present; that honesty, mortality, fair
deadline, clean living, and dealing with other as fairly as we would deal with ourselves are all principles
that should generally apply. Such thins most of us agree to in theory, but we are sometimes disposed to
think more of their application to other and to make excuses for ourselves. When we hear some sound
advice, when we helara moving sermon, when we hear suggestions for improving people, we
frequently think of other we wish had heard it. We think how fine it would be for our friends. Almost
every day we hear or read of remarkable methods for improving talents, or for making better use of
time—how to live within our income, how to avoid marital misunderstandings, how to get along with
neighbors, how to reach children. And we rarely hear or read of such suggestions without thinking how
fine it would be for our friends. And if there is a community project we frequently think of other who
should be interested in it and show should take time to serve (excepting perhaps ourselves. (After all we
are so busy) so long as we are interested primarily in improving other people, our own improvement
may be much more slow than if we would begin with ourselves, and first see what the remedy would
do for us, and second, how fine it would be for our friends.